Then sister invited me to this event today, where a pretty popular local sports bar was hosting along with the Humane Society. For $15 bucks, you got all you could drink for 3 hours and you could bring your dog to it. It was for a good cause since your $15 bucks would go directly to the Humane Society. At first I was not into it, but then my sister played the “you could find the love of your life there, plus I’m paying”… Off I went! Because guys and free drinks? No a bad combination to kill 3 hours on an early Saturday afternoon.
I wish
The bar was full, of good looking YOUNG guys with their dogs. I had a blast seeing these big muscle men with tiny bitty dogs (makes you wonder right?). Now I have not done the bar scene in ages, mainly because I have notice a shift in role playing …. in my days, the women at a bar had to take out a stick to control the men out lash that would be coming her way… or maybe it was because I use to go to bar that were crawling with Hispanic men? Anyway, now the men have to do the control routine. I sat there and while I got plenty of looks (the I’m interest look are you?) from the men around me, none… read it again, NONE came my way. They stood there, waiting for WHAT? I just could not understand it. But then I notice it, they were waiting for me to actually be the one going over there.
Ah.. excuse me, when did this happen?
And because I’m not a man..and don’t think like them… I had to go to the source… a male friend. And he was all to happy to talk about “today’s new breed of woman”– the sexy women who want men to be subservient and submissive… “And you are one of them, and we recognize it”.
WHAT? hello and rewind….
He laugh and said that these attractive, sexy women expect a man to play ’second fiddle,’ even to cater to their every whim. It is their way or the highway! So men have taken the attitude to sit back and let them come to them, he went as far as telling me “Monica, we don’t have to work for it anymore, the women are so dominant now a days, that they have taken the role of the aggressive male.”
And the more I thought about it I realized he had a point, but was missing it…
I think the problem today is that most men are misinterpreting “dominance” here–today’s women absolutely do NOT want a submissive, subservient man. They want a man who defines authority, and acts like, well, a MAN. The problem is, there are so many wimpy, wussy, whinny little boys out there, that women who are approached, are forced to come up with a testing mechanism to separate the “men from the boys.”
What most of us do, is to test men by seeing if they’ll act submissive and subservient. The instant the “man” does, he’s classified as a wuss, and the we will continue to see how far we can push the envelope, hoping and praying for some display of authority. But, in today’s society where men are raised to be pansies and whiners, it makes for a lot of frustrating dating/relationships.
Men, seem to not realized that when you demonstrate authority early on, and let us know in a naughty, funny, yet firm way that our tests are for wimps and whiners, an amazing thing happens–we are attracted to you and appreciates the authority you’ve given us. At the end of the day, we just want to find a MAN.
Are today’s women a bit more assertive? Sure–but all that means is that, as a man, we want you to be more assertive and authoritative in return. Unfortunately, most “men” today go the opposite way, putting on the diapers and crying for Mommy because a woman was “mean” to them. Probably the most misunderstood subject in today’s world is authority–many men mistake authority for abuse of authority, or are uncomfortable with the subject altogether. The truth is, authority is simply the art of getting other people to want to do what you want them to do.
And when women, like me, meet someone that shows true authority, especially one who lets her know he recognizes her tests, and they don’t wash with him there is no better opportunity than when you meet the so called “new breed of woman” because when you know how to deal with our tests, and demonstrate that to her, we will do anything to please you and keep you happy in return. Why? Because we know that our chances of finding that in another man in today’s Age of the Wuss are between slim and none.
